Confidence 101

Want to be comfortable so you don't care what others think of you?you're in the right place

First of all, thank you all for 100 subs! I’m so thankful to every one of you who supported me throughout the whole journey, so I want to dedicate this article to you guys, and I want everyone to be confident in themselves. ❤

So let’s start. Today, I want to give you guys some tips on how to increase your confidence by yourself. Before giving out the tips, I want to mention that this can take you months and years even. But it’s okay, and everyone’s journey is different. Now about the tricks;

1. Fake it till you make it rule

I remember watching Rihanna’s interview; I was feeling down, and she said, “Fake it till you make it“ on looking confident. That quote changed my whole perspective on confidence. I thought you had to be confident in order to look like one; however, how you present yourself really matters, and it creates others’ imaginations of you. That’s why you can practice by mimicking body movements or gestures that are going to help you look confident.

2. Confidence is silent; don't try to brag.

We usually have this misconception of bragging when it comes to looking confident. But the reality is people who are actually comfortable with themselves don’t try to show off or “scream“. Showing off is only going to make you look insecure, so it’s recommended to stay away from this type of act.

3. Act like you own the place.

Ever heard of the term turning heads"? This is not only related to being confident, because nowadays, people would do literally anything in order to be “accepted.” However, every single person has their own vibe or aura that affects their whole life, and this quote is about them. If you know how to use your charms and your personality and when to use them, then you can be one of those people. In my opinion, this tip takes some time, since people already have their perception of you, and you have to change or improve it, but it’s definitely possible. As someone who used to be the silent kid, I’ve learned how to be present, and this concept has affected my relationships with people in a positive way.

4. You can start observing people

This tip applies to people who are visual learners, like me. You can take anyone: a celebrity, your friend who’s not afraid of anything, a colleague liked by everyone, or a family member you see as a role model.

I’d recommend you observing people and how they act daily. Well, this might sound weird for some people, but I like doing this, and it has helped me a lot. Especially looking at their body language and how they treat you, this will open your eyes quickly.

5. Set boundaries and learn how to say no.

If you’re a people pleaser like me, this can be hard to practice daily. But since I learned this trick and applied it to my life, life has been so much easier.

So the tip is earning respect in society, and in order to achieve this, you need to set up boundaries and make sure people know how not to step on them. You can lose “friends“ while doing this, and it’s (believe me) good for you. Removing toxic people is 1000000% better for your mental health than keeping them while getting anxious about what they say, how they treat you, or what they think about you.

6. Get out of your comfort zone.

Oh, this one was quite hard for me. But after getting into university for my bachelor’s degree, I’ve started practicing this method, and I’ve never been better. If you don’t have a chance or an opportunity to do it, you can try talking to a stranger every day. Could be your neighbor, the lady on the bus (obviously don’t go around them like a creep); instead of chickening out, try to hold a small conversation, and you can improve your social skills at the same time.

Note: If this is not considered normal or ethical in your country, don’t do it. You can try talking to people in clubs/parties/crowds instead.

7. Accept yourself

If you don’t love the way you are and the way you look, you will not be confident in yourself. To love yourself, you need to stop comparing yourself to other people.This can be a common practice for almost everyone, but the truth is if you don’t love yourself, you can’t expect others to love you. Start appreciating yourself, your looks, your abilities, your skills, and basically everything that makes you the way you are.

This is tough and hard and might not go the same for everyone, but take your time! You got this! :)

8. Affirmations

This tip is important. In order to love yourself, you can start practicing tricking your brain into thinking that. Our mindset is literally everything. Sounds cliché, but it’s not about looks. I’ve seen the prettiest people in high school and university who didn’t have confidence in themselves. This proves that if you didn’t set your mindset right, then no matter what, you will always doubt yourself. So I’ll leave you guys with some general affirmations you can listen to daily.

I love myself.

I love my body.

I love my face.

I am worthy of love and respect.

I am capable of achieving my goals and dreams.

I am grateful for my life.

I am continually growing and improving.

I deserve happiness and success.

I embrace opportunities that come my way.

I am confident in my abilities.

I attract positive energy and experiences.

I am at peace with who I am.

Love you guys and peace! (✿◡‿◡) Zəhra